If your trust foundations are rocky, your ability to trust others may be inconsistent and unstable.

“How you gon’ win when you ain’t right within?” This quote from a track by Lauryn Hill illustrates this premise perfectly. Trying to give something you don’t have to give, is an impossible task. Trust in all its forms is not excluded from this premise.

Webster’s dictionary defines trust as:

“A belief that someone or something is reliable, good, honest, effective, etc.”

If our trust muscle wasn’t built on solid foundations, then trusting others, or trusting life will not come easy. How we experience life is based on our expectations and beliefs. How we experience other people is the same.

Our beliefs and expectations were formed in childhood. If your childhood experience was one where you felt abandoned, neglected or alone, that then informed your beliefs about life. Those beliefs automatically show up in stressful situations. They show up as an inner narrative that may sound something like:

Life is not safe, therefore I am not safe.

How Can I Trust Myself? Learning to Trust Myself. How Can I Trust Others?

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If we don’t feel that we were loved in early childhood, then trust is a tough muscle to build. Because when life gets tough, we automatically default to our entrenched belief systems. That includes our belief systems around trust. What’s required to break free from those default responses, is learning, in this case, to trust ourselves.

Here are five simple ways:

  • 1. Be Honest With Yourself

Trust comes through being completely honest with ourselves about what’s going on in a situation. Glossing over hurts or denying our bad behaviour will not cut it. Be willing to get very real with yourself, especially before attempting to get real with someone else!

  • 2. Cultivate Self-Appreciation

In order to trust others, we must first appreciate ourselves. If you have overarching negative beliefs about who you are, you will not trust anyone who tries to love, value or appreciate you. You will most certainly attract experiences and lovers who mirror your inner demons. Claim that. Own that. Accept that your lack of self-appreciation has impacted your experience.

  • 3. Forgive Yourself

We tend as humans to turn outer attacks in on ourselves. We blame ourselves for what was done to us. To reverse this automatic distorted response, we must first forgive ourselves for that false belief.

  • 4. Stop Giving Your Power Away

To trust others, we must acknowledge the power we give to others. You give your power away when trust in yourself is based solely on another’s opinions or behaviour. You cultivate personal power when you acknowledge all the ways that you are already trustworthy. You become more ‘trust worthy’ when you claim your innate power.

  • 5. Take Ownership

Take ownership of all the ways that you have not been trustworthy – without berating yourself. Simply state: This is true. I have not been trustworthy in this aspect of my life. List them. Seeing this truth on the page will open your eyes. Again without self-berating, choose one thing on that list to work on each day, week, or month. Ask yourself, how can I be more trustworthy in this area? Then take action to improve in that area, even if it’s just a small step in the right direction.


Trusting others and trusting life, is a direct extension of how much you trust yourself. Because no matter how another person behaves, you will trust yourself to be able to handle it. You will be able to walk away from a bad situation because you know your worth.

When challenging life circumstances show up, you will trust yourself to get through it. You’ll then naturally attract more support to move through that challenge. You can then determine, with this greater discernment, that other people are also worthy of your trust.

As within, so without, is the cardinal rule of life. Trust that rule, it will build your trust muscles…

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